What I have learned along the way about Love…
When someone loves you, there is no waiting for permission or an invitation to spend time with you
~They will choose to spend time with you~
When someone loves you, there is no waiting to ask you how you are or to start a conversation
~They will choose to speak to you~
When someone loves you, there is no loving you when it is convenient
~They will choose to make you a part of every moment and be at your doorstep without hesitation or question when you ask~
~Love doesn’t say someday~
~Love doesn’t ignore~
~Love doesn’t make excuses~
~Love doesn’t hide~
~Love doesn’t avoid~
~Love doesn’t keep secrets~ 
~Love seeks~
~Love participates~
~Love speaks truth~
~Love flows~
~Love has will~
~Love shows courage~
~Love acts~
I found myself with someone who could not, would not or was not able to be in the same consciousness to be in love as I knew and felt it to be. I say could not or would not only for the benefit of attempting to explain with words the cycle I went through trying to understand and maneuver through our relationship that always seemed to be a struggle. We often times put a label on why a relationship doesn’t work out to try and make sense of the struggle or put all of our focus into fixing what we think is the problem instead of loving our self enough to own what we want and listen long enough to our heart to know why it is time to let go. Fear tells our mind we must try to make sense of it, fix it or have a reason why this is happening. I had put labels on the whys in my life or tried to find reasons to fix the struggle until I chose to look within myself and choose love. I don’t mean love for everyone else…I mean self-love. I learned that the heart lives from a place of knowing and Love already knows that if that person is in a place that could not or would not choose to love me the same way or they don’t understand how I saw the world of love, it could not be forced. There is nothing to judge or even try to change. Love is acceptance and there may come a time when you must choose if those worlds are on different paths. I chose Self-Love. My world became different and my time came to choose how I would keep walking. I chose to walk alone.
You may find yourself walking the path alone and you may find yourself wanting to turn around and run back to a love that doesn’t love the way you do. Being alone isn’t always easy but have courage and keep walking. For if they do not feel, show, express, and love you the way you know love to be, the most loving words given to you can become vessels of hope that your heart tries to hold onto as long as possible but they dissolve within your being as you wait for truth in action. Don’t be hard on yourself if you do run back or walk quickly to a relationship that is familiar to you. You will know once you get there again if the words were centered in truth or if the words and actions were only from fear of losing you and then the choice will present itself to you again. What path do you choose? Be brave enough to love yourself completely and know without a doubt your worth to have someone in your life that wants to love you and participate in every way that you know love to be. Be brave enough to let a person go so they can live their love and truth the way they understand life to be. As hard as it may be to understand in the moment letting go is actually a gift. The mind will try and figure out why you would want to let go but the heart knows that the best gift of Love you can give yourself and the other person is to allow you both to be in Love the way you know it to be.
Dr. Wayne Dyer said “The law of attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.” What does love look like and feel like in your life? What is love to you? What do you want to attract in your life? It takes courage to look within and see who you are. There are realizations along the journey of who you thought you were, who you are realizing you are and who you will choose to become.
One thing I know for certain is that fear is the only thing that holds you back from acting on any choice to be in love. You are the creator of your story and the owner of your choices.
Have courage.
